June 26, 2019

Some of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve experienced clinically have been the result of my clients letting go of shame programing. This may come as a surprise knowing that the majority of my clients come into my clinic with chronic pain, sleeping, and digestive issues. O...

April 25, 2019

One of the main lies my Awfulizer tells me is that self-care is selfish — that taking the time for myself to write, go to therapy, work out, or just sit and read a book is wrong. That is a lie, but it’s one I have believed for a long time.

I think that may be why self-c...

March 13, 2019

I’m working on a series of children’s books about shame. In each book, you meet a child who has a shaming experience. Each child lives with this shame and expresses it in a different way. Then an adult in their life steps in and gives them a strategy (or superpower) to...

February 20, 2019

Late last year my husband and I went on an amazing trip, hosted by Bethel Church, called Gather. It was a life-fulfilling, spirit-resetting trip full of laughter, fellowship and worship. It was a special time, to say the least. 

One thing the trip offered was time...

February 13, 2019

The other day, I woke up feeling pretty bummed. It was a combination of stresses, decisions made (that were the right ones, but still not fun to make) and, I think, just the daily drudgery that sometimes is life. A lot of life is just the grind, you know?

Normally, I tr...

February 6, 2019

In an earlier blog post, I talked about a game we play as a family at the dinner table. Essentially, you start with one person at the table, and everyone else says something nice about them. Then that person has to say one nice thing about themselves before you move on...

January 30, 2019

If you haven’t noticed yet, I’m going to draw your attention to the fact that the main picture on my website has a flub. During the photo shoot, the little stringy thing, which all shirts have for some mysterious reason, worked its way out and is there for all to see....

January 23, 2019

Think back over your life to your greatest moments of pride and joy.  Maybe it is a new job, graduation, the highest scorer on your basketball team, a new relationship or child.  Those are universally great experiences and pride and joy often accompany them.  But what...

January 9, 2019

Now that I am writing children's books about shame, I am reading a lot of Brené Brown. I probably should have started reading her before I started writing, but how often do we do what we should? Have you read Brené Brown yet? If not, you absolutely must. 

The books have...

January 3, 2019

We’ve started a new tradition in my house for when my kids get in trouble, which happens daily. When they begin to freak out (which they always do when they get in trouble), I have them say a phrase with me: “What can you do to make me (Mom) not love you?”

The answer? “...

Please reload

Featured Posts

"I'm the worst."

February 27, 2019

1/4
Please reload

Recent Posts

September 2, 2020

June 19, 2020

March 31, 2020

March 2, 2020

October 23, 2019

Please reload

Archive
Please reload

Search By Tags
Please reload